The journey of life

Chapter 2: a new chapter in life

life — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 18:19:28 GMT

I believe everyone should have a point every once in a while to close the files of their past and start new chapter. For some, its their birthday, for some (like me) its new years

Reviewing the year that past in important. Reviewing the things that happened, the decision you made, the things you’ve done, the things you learned. Doing so really helps one to understand where he/she stands and understanding that is important for carrying on in life

The whole point of doing so, is understand yourself, if you understand yourself then you’re gonna start understanding others

List the things you did in 2009 and you were about a bout them. Write the reasons for your happiness about every single thing

List the things you did in 2009 and you were not happy about it, or you regret. Write the reason for your sadness or regret about every single thing

List the Mistakes you made in 2009. Doesn’t matter WHY you made that mistake. But it matters what you LEARNED from it. So write what you learned from each mistake

List want you want to do in 2010 and write the reason you want to do it

List the decisions that you made in 2009. Write the reason you made that decision. Are you happy about those decision? Why? Why not? Write everything

Now when preparing these lists, do yourself a favor and BE HONEST with yourself. Now I know sometimes it is really hard to be honest with yourself but you won’t succeed unless you do it properly

The moment you start being honest with yourself, that is the moment the door of knowing yourself will open! When listing the mistakes you made in 2009 you’re excepting each mistake and that’s great! When you write what you learned from each mistake, the chances that you make that mistake again will go smaller. When you write the things you did and you liked and the things you did and you didn’t like, that will help you understand what you want to do from now on and the reason you want to do it. The best part is that in between by writing the reasons , you’ll know if that particular thing is even worth doing or resisting.(hope I made it clear :p ) and finally when you list the things you want to do in 2010 and the reasons you want to do them, you’ll know if the things you want to do are for the right reason, or its even time to do it and then when you go over this list in the last week of 2010 which is next year, you’ll know how much you’ve committed to yourself and your decisions

A positive point about preparing all these lists is that you get one step closer to yourself. You understand yourself better. It is also a very useful way of moving on

I’ll give one example for every list

List 1: the things I did in 2009 and I liked + the reason : I gave myself a chance to actually love someone. I’m happy I gave myself this chance because without learning to love and giving myself the chance to love , life is meaningless

List 2: the things I did in 2009 and I didn’t like + the reason : I started liking a guy just because others were pushing me. The reason I’m not happy about it is that I should be living my life for me and for what I think and feel , not for what others think and feel

List 3: The mistakes I made in 2009 + what I learned from it: When I found out that my bf cheated on me for the second time I still gave him another chance and that was when he cheated on me for the third time. My mistake was that by giving him chances on and on , I let him take me for granted. What did I learn? ONCE A CHEATER , ALWAYS A CHEATER + how I should not let anyone take me for granted

List 4: what I want to do in 2010 and the reason: I want to learn Salsa dancing! Why?! It will give me in good shape, it will bring me happiness

Now, GOOD LUCK with your lists :D

Chapter 1: A decision

life — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 07:57:28 GMT

Find yourself in hard times

at first, when all these happened to me i thought to myself: why me? what did i ever do to deserve this

and of course the answer was no. i had done nothing to deserve such cruelty and be cheated on

and then i realized that this happened to me so that realize the path that lies in front of me...a journey to find myself and realize who i am. why i'm here and what i want to do with the most precious gift i've ever received, my life

so far i've learned that

First, there's always a decision to be made. you don't have to make that decision so fast , but you should make it with consideration so you won’t regret it afterwards.

How you make a decision is sometimes more important than the decision itself. You’ve got to make sure you’re on the right track. How? Follow the signs and cues God sends you. These signs and cues usually come to you through others around you and then there is this sound in your mind: DING! That’s when u know it was a sign from God. Use those signs and make your choice

Now normally when you make a choice you need support of others! It might be as little as someone else’s opinion but it still is considered as a support and here comes the second lesson

When you make a decision all the support you really need is your own support and God’s! believe me, if you believe in the choice you’ve made all you gotta do is trust yourself and trust God and then act on your decision

Now , with every great decision there goes a period hard times…you have difficulties…you have emotional imbalances..you have doubts…you have disappointment and then you have friends who help you through that time….there’re some friends who you don’t trust to share your difficulties with…they get excluded naturally…there’re some friends who for whatever reason are not there for you to help you and finally there’re ones that help you and stand up for you. That’s when you know who your friends are. This is how you know it’s time to make an adjustment on your friend’s list.

EX: I don’t call the pack that is surrounding me “friends” anymore…I only have 10 friends in this world

Third lesson : Never change because others want you to. Make the change when you want to and make in the way you think is right. It’s you that lives your life not others

EX: people and friends around me pushed me to change in the way they wanted me to change. But that new person was not me at all

Fourth lesson: do not FULLY trust others. Now having trust to some extent is necessary for us to carry on in life but when you FULLY trust some one you become blind and when you open your eyes, the damage is already done. Do not make your decisions on the basis of what others tell you. You should listen to what others say…. You should learn from them but never FULLY trust what they say

EX: I trusted my very close friends and what they said about the guy who was hitting on me so I dated him and got together with him. Later I realized that what they said about him was not true. now they did not lie but they were talking me into this on the basis of their assumptions which were totally wrong

Fifth lesson: Life is too short to be lived for others. Live it for YOU not anyone else. You can never make EVERYBODY happy with your decisions. There’re always some people you’re proud of you for the decision you’ve made and some you are not. SO WHAT? Are YOU happy with your decision? Yes?? Ok then go for it! YOUR happiness should not depend on the happiness of others

EX: When I make others happy, it makes me feel good. But I can’t spend all my life making everybody happy, can i? no! The ones I should make happy ad proud of me are GOD, ME, my family and a maybe few close friends. THAT’S IT